Almost a year out from a wrong-way DUI crash, first surgery done. Has anyone been through the long haul?
Long post, sorry in advance. I'm 28 and my brother (26) was riding with me when a driver going the wrong way on a divided highway plowed into us around 11 months ago. Cops found open containers everywhere in the other car, the driver blew well over the limit roadside, and was charged with DUI and vehicular assault on the spot. We were stuck waiting at the scene for hours in the middle of summer — both of us run our own small businesses and had equipment and work materials in the back that got cooked sitting in the heat while everything got sorted out.
I came out worse than my brother injury-wise. Here's where I'm at:
- Right knee: confirmed meniscus tear + some cartilage damage. Had my first surgery on it yesterday. Supposed to be a two-surgery situation, possibly three depending on how this one heals.
- Left shoulder: partial rotator cuff tear, still doing PT but my ortho is already floating the idea of a procedure if I plateau.
- Both hands/forearms: I get this weird tingling and numbness that comes and goes. Neurologist is still working through it.
- Mental health: Officially diagnosed with PTSD and anxiety. I flinch at literally every car that changes lanes near me. Driving on the highway feels impossible some days.
I have an attorney and I'm not here for legal advice — genuinely not. I just want to hear from people who've actually lived through something this drawn out. The insurance company on the other side has already tried lowballing us once. My lawyer shut it down but it still rattled me.
How do you stay sane when your whole life is basically paused waiting for your body to figure out what it's doing? Anyone who's been through multiple surgeries from one crash — what did the timeline actually look like for you?