Fell asleep driving a loaded trailer, went off an embankment. 9 years later I'm still not whole.
I've never really talked about this outside of family and my care team, but something about this community made me want to finally put it into words.
Nine years ago I was hauling a trailer full of my stuff across a two-lane highway in the rural Midwest — relocating for a new job, night driving to avoid traffic. I dozed off somewhere around 2 a.m. and when I came back to consciousness the truck was already leaving the road. We dropped maybe 40 feet down a steep embankment into a culvert ditch. The trailer jackknifed and the cab crumpled.
I lost basically everything I owned in that ditch. My dog did not survive, and I still carry that.
The injuries were... a lot.
- Both legs fractured, left tibia in three places
- Several vertebrae compressed — I wore a brace for almost two years
- Right shoulder reconstructed twice
- Traumatic brain injury (mild-to-moderate, but the cognitive stuff lingered for years)
- Nerve damage in my left hand that still affects my grip
I've had eleven surgeries total. The chronic pain is real and it is relentless. Some days are genuinely okay now. A lot aren't.
What I wish I'd known at the time: I had no idea how to navigate insurance, medical liens, or what my rights even were in the weeks after. I was in survival mode and basically signed whatever they put in front of me. Years later I learned I'd left significant money on the table.
If you're in the early stages of something serious — please, please talk to someone who knows this area before you sign anything.
Just needed to say it out loud somewhere. Thanks for being here.