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Got badly hurt at 14 in a crash, now 23 and old symptoms are creeping back. Terrified.

This is kind of hard to write out but I need to talk to people who might actually get it.

When I was 14 I was in the back seat when a drunk driver blew through a stop sign and t-boned us. I won't list everything that happened but the short version is: broken pelvis in multiple spots, a dislocated hip, and a serious injury to my urethra — the tube that carries urine out of your body. It got severed in the impact.

I was in and out of consciousness for the first few days. I was on so many medications I barely remember the first few weeks in the hospital. What I do remember is the pain. The catheter. The bladder spasms. Months of just lying there, completely dependent on everyone around me for everything. You don't appreciate being able to walk to the bathroom by yourself until you literally can't.

After about seven months of recovery they were able to surgically reconstruct the urethra — no grafts needed, they just reconnected it — and honestly the years after that were fine. I thought I was past it.

Now I'm 23 and in the last few weeks I've noticed things getting weird again. Weak stream, feeling like I can't fully empty, occasional leaking. I have a urology appointment coming up but I'm just... spiraling waiting for it.

I'm not looking for a diagnosis obviously. I just want to know if anyone else has dealt with long-term complications from crash injuries that seemed healed, and then weren't. Or really anything. I feel really alone with this right now.

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