daring-fox-24417h ago

Got rear-ended last week — no idea how any of this actually works, help?

So this is genuinely my first time dealing with anything like this and I feel completely lost. I was stopped at a red light and someone plowed into the back of me. The other driver admitted fault at the scene and we exchanged info, but now I'm just sitting here not knowing what happens next.

The back of my car looks rough — the trunk won't latch properly anymore and there's a weird creaking noise when I drive that wasn't there before. I don't know if that means it's just cosmetic stuff or if something structural is messed up. I'm also a little sore in my neck and upper back but I didn't go to the ER because I thought I was fine. Now I'm reading online and getting scared I messed up by not going.

The other driver's insurance already called me and the lady was super friendly and kept asking how I was feeling and whether I needed a rental right away. It felt nice but also... a little off? Like why is she being SO helpful.

I have an adjuster coming to look at the car later this week and I have no idea what questions to ask or what to watch out for. Do I just let them do their thing? Do I need my own adjuster? Should I have seen a doctor already?

I'm not trying to "get rich" off this or anything, I just want my car fixed and to make sure I'm actually okay. Any advice from people who've been through this would mean a lot. Sorry if I'm overthinking it — I just genuinely don't know what I don't know.

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genuine-sparrow-59717h ago
Oh man, I was in your exact shoes about two years ago — rear-ended, confused, adjuster calling fast. The super-friendly insurance rep thing is REAL and it threw me off too. They're not your friend, they're trying to close your claim quickly and cheaply. I learned that the hard way. Just don't let them pressure you into signing or agreeing to anything over the phone yet.
clear-wren-84317h ago
Please go get checked out by a doctor, even if it's just urgent care. Neck and back soreness after a rear-end collision can be whiplash, and the thing about whiplash is it often gets significantly worse 48-72 hours after the crash — people feel "fine" and then wake up two days later barely able to turn their head. Having a medical record that documents your symptoms close to the date of the accident matters a lot later on, whether for insurance or anything else. Don't wait on this part.
- warm-hare-76717h ago
  That friendly adjuster calling you fast? That's a tactic. They want to get you to settle before you know the full extent of your injuries or damage. Be very careful about accepting any offer right now. You have no idea yet what your medical bills might look like or whether your car has frame damage. Once you accept a settlement and sign a release, that's usually it.
swift-beaver-18917h ago
I used to work in claims, so here's the inside view: early contact from the other driver's insurance is standard but the speed of it is intentional. They're hoping you're not too hurt and just want your car fixed quickly. Totally valid to want that, but don't combine your injury claim and your property damage into one conversation. Keep them separate. Also — ask specifically whether the repair shop they recommend is on their 'preferred' list, because those shops sometimes have incentives to keep repair costs low for the insurer.
- brave-badger-19817h ago
  Not legal advice, but — the trunk not latching properly after a rear impact can sometimes indicate frame or unibody damage, not just a bent panel. A reputable body shop should do a full structural assessment, not just a visual one. If the estimate comes back and something feels off, you're allowed to get a second opinion from an independent shop. Also, it's worth at least having a free consultation with a PI attorney before you talk further with the insurance company — most offer them and it costs you nothing.
- daring-crane-85517h ago
  You're not overthinking this at all, this stuff is genuinely confusing even for people who've dealt with it before. I'd be freaking out too. Just make sure you take care of yourself first — the car stuff can be figured out but please go get your neck checked out. That's the part I'd be most worried about.
genuine-sparrow-89017h ago
A few practical things: document everything right now if you haven't — photos of the damage from multiple angles, screenshot the weather and traffic conditions if you can, write down everything you remember about the crash while it's fresh. Also keep a running note of any symptoms you feel day by day. If this turns into any kind of claim, that kind of timeline is genuinely useful. And yes, you can request the other driver's insurance policy limits — that's public information you're entitled to ask for.
clear-finch-43017h ago
Two things: go to the doctor today, not tomorrow. And don't give a recorded statement to the other driver's insurance without understanding what you're agreeing to. They will ask. You can politely decline or at least delay until you know more about what's going on with your body and your car.
mellow-marmot-32017h ago
The fact that the other driver admitted fault at the scene and you got their info is honestly a better starting position than a lot of people are in. It doesn't make it less stressful but it does mean you're not fighting a he-said-she-said battle. Take it one step at a time — doctor first, then let the process unfold.