Paid the other driver cash to settle it privately — now he filed a claim anyway. What do I do?
I'm honestly so frustrated right now and just need to hear if anyone has been through something like this.
A couple weeks ago I got into a fender bender in a parking lot — pretty minor, we both pulled over, looked at the damage together, and the other driver seemed totally calm. He said he didn't want to deal with insurance rates going up and suggested we just handle it between ourselves. We agreed on an amount right there, I sent him the money through a payment app that same evening, and he texted me back saying we were "all good" and he wasn't going to pursue anything further.
No police report. No formal paperwork. Just that text thread and my transaction history.
Fast forward to last week — I get a letter from my insurance company saying a claim has been filed against me by this guy. Now he's telling the insurer a completely different version of what happened, exaggerating the damage, and apparently saying nothing about our private agreement or the money I already paid him.
I've texted him asking for my money back since he clearly decided to go the insurance route anyway. He's leaving me on read.
My insurance hasn't made a determination yet but I'm panicking. I have the payment receipt and his texts confirming we settled. Does that actually mean anything legally? Can he really just pocket my cash AND file a claim?
I feel so stupid for not doing this the right way from the start but it genuinely seemed like the right call in the moment. Any advice or similar experiences welcome.